We’ve entered stage two of potty training which, as every parent knows, is the stage known as “going pretty darn well” (stage three would be “getting to talk with your spouse about something other than peeing or pooping”). I’m not sure how it happened, but the accidents started to go away and Rocky decided he didn’t want to sit in his own filth anymore. I don’t think we did anything all that miraculous with him, although I suppose Leah might have while I was at work. It certainly feels like a miracle.
As you may recall from earlier posts, Rocky is a boy with a wiener (a pretty standard boy trait). That wiener affords him the option to peeing either standing up or sitting down (just one more advantage of being a male in this society), so every time I take him to pee, there’s a decision to be made. Do I ask him to sit down or ask him if he wants to stand up? I see pros and cons to both.
Argument for standing*
- I really, really don’t want him to grow up to be an adult male who sits down to pee. It’s just not something I want for my son. And since he’s going to need this skill, might as well get started with it.
- If he stands, he doesn’t have to take his pants all the way off to do his business. If he tries to pee sitting down with his pants on, he has issues pointing…certain things**…down, resulting in the confusing “made it to the potty, still wet my pants” result.
- Easier to spit in the toilet post-pee from a standing position
(* A trick we’re using to get him to aim when he pees is to put cheerios in the toilet and let him aim at them. A great trick and pretty effective, but is there anything more first world than literally throwing food in the toilet and peeing on it? Also, how long before he grabs a cheerio out of the bowl and eats it?)
(** his penis)
Arguments for Sitting
- He’s either too short or too tall. Grandpa made him a stool, but when he stands on it, he has to aim because he’s at a normal peeing height. But he’s also still two and a half, so there’s generally pee everywhere, especially at the start (nobody ever knows where the initial stream is going). He corrects quickly, but it just takes a moment to hose down the wall with urine. If he doesn’t use the stool, his Mr. Peeper can just barely see over the bowl, which requires him to pee on his tippy-toes. While I don’t want him to be an adult sit-down pee-er, I also don’t want him to be an adult tippy-toe pee-er.
- When you’re new to the potty business, sometimes it’s sort of hard to see the big picture when it comes to the bathroom. Sure, you have to pee. But is there anything else that has to happen? Maybe an urge comes upon you when peeing, but you’re standing. What do you do? I just don’t want him to get surprised and have the potty visit turn into a bi-directional event.
- It’s the only moments of the day where he sits still.
We’re going to push for standing, of course. We’re not animals. But I will admit that if he doesn’t have clothes on (pre-bath, for example), I’ll generally just throw him on the toilet in a seated position. Sure, it’s the easy way out. No aiming. No work. But even though it might seem more of a pain to pee standing right now, it makes me happy to know that he’ll get to go through life being able to just whip it out and pee wherever he wants.